You know that you know

I went to get my hair coloured yesterday. I wanted a big bold red! I sat in the chair, and this lady did her thing, in between asking for the opinion of another hairdresser. Now you know that can’t be good. Your hairdresser asking for a second opinion!

The Color came out bad. I wanted tones and highlights. If the colour had come out flat, I would have maybe kept it. Not only did it come out flat there were patches of black and patches of way too red. I was upset.

The hairdresser, the barber and some patrons tried their best to console me and convince me that I looked amazing. I was so angry I left, stopped by the drug store and picked up black dye and coloured my hair the same day even though it was highly not recommended by the clerk at the drug store.

What is the purpose of all this talk you ask? The purpose is to tell you no matter how much anyone tells you that something is good for you, for your life if you feel that it’s not then it’s not. All the answers for our lives are inside us. If you’re asking everyone around you what you should do, what you should wear, what you should study, You’re doing it all wrong. I always know when I look good when I look good in an outfit. I know, and the mirror knows and my soul dances with excitement and satisfaction. I believe every decision concerning our lives should make your souls dance. You should be so, ok with it that you don’t have to wait for anyone to cosign it. It shouldn’t matter if someone thinks its the best one yet or not a good one at all. On my Instagram page @elegant_quotess I made this quote:

“Not everyone will agree 100% with your decisions, and that’s ok.”

In our hearts, we know that we know what is best for us. Just sit and be quiet and listen to that voice inside. There your answers will be. The Bible has one of my favourite verse that says: “Be still, and know that I am God: I will be exalted among the heathen, I will be exalted in the earth” Psalm 46:10.



How to let go…

Letting go of a situation or person that hurt you is easier said than done. I’ve always thought that I was supposed to just decide to let go and poof! It was done. So I’d beat myself up when I woke up the next day, and the feeling of anger and bitterness was still there. Why can’t I just let it go? Cos I thought that as soon as I decide to let it go. It’ll all go away. I’d be wiped clean with zero residues. That’s not the case at all.

Letting go is a  process. Its deciding every day, every hour, every minute, and every second that I will not let myself dwell on this negative thought that is hurting me. It’s admitting to yourself that “yes this hurts!” but I’m not going to spend my time meditating on the pain. The previous blog ” You are meditating on that? “touched lightly on the power of meditation. Rather meditate on what you’re grateful for, on scripture and whatever else floats your boat.

I hope this was helpful.


What else am I supposed to be insecure about today?

I went to the drug store yesterday in search of facial cleanser, and I came across this Neutrogena cleanser on sale. Neutrogena is that brand that Kerry Washington advertises “Can your makeup remover do all that? Neutrogena”  I just love how she speaks. She has this innocent way of speaking like a lisp but not really. Anyway according to the label the cleanser minimizes the appearance of pores. I walked over to that makeup mirror to look at my pores, shrugged and bought the cleanser. I guess my pores could be smaller, right?

I’ve used it once so far, and I love it. While in the bathroom I started to check for my pores, you know to see if they had gotten smaller. I then realised wait a minute I had no issue with the size of my pores until I went to the drug store. So I did what I normally do when I need answers, I Googled  “Why do I need to minimize my pores?” Guess what no reason at all. Just a bunch of advertisers telling you, you need to have smaller pores, and to have smaller pores, you have to buy their product.

Corporations are making tons of money off of our insecurities and until we develop a sense of high intrinsic security in who we, they’ll continue to exploit us. It’s not my first time speaking on these matters see my article Body Image as well.


You are meditating on that?

I get it; social media is the millennial’s absolute fav past time. We are moving from snap chat to Instagram and Twitter with a click of a button. Memes are my absolute favourite, and I’m actually trying to introduce a new post on here called  Meme of the day. I find myself laughing outrageously in public because of memes. I’m a blogger, so I’m not about to exclude myself from this madness. I’ve been noticing a lot of memes that actually are not ok to our mental health, and they are written in a funny, jokey way, so we don’t pay attention to the detrimental effect they have on our emotional strength. For example:

“My Milkshake brings all the

emotionally unavailable, narcissistic,

selfish, commitment-phobes

to the yard.”

This is a meme that’s supposed to be funny, and we laugh and keep swiping after hours of scrolling you don’t realise you’re letting this junk into your subconscious mind. Are you meditating on that? Soon you’ll start believing you attract these kinds of people that you’re broke and have anxiety. Once you believe it, you speak it and this How about this:

“How broke are you?

McDonald’s ice cream machine.”

Whatever you spend your time thinking about, joking about, reading about is who you become. Many thought leaders know this. Many self-help books will tell you this as well. There is power in your thoughts. I find that going offline real helps. I take a week sometimes just one day without social media. Whats fantastic is that every time I take time off, and I feel like swiping, I take a moment to pray or meditate on my favourite verse this helps me to ground me in my faith and replaces the negative thoughts with positive ones, and I guarantee it’ll work for you too.  Of course, there are positive aspects of social media we get to share knowledge, interact with people far across the globe.

Be mindful of what you’re allowing into mental space because it will transcend to other areas of your life.

Have a great weekend!  😉