Takers Take

Some people are takers. No matter how much you give them, they’ll still come back for more. They take material things, and they take spiritual things. Some takers know they’re takers and they revel in their ability to take. Others don’t realise it they surround themselves with givers unconsciously because being around givers gives them a sense of power. I’m talking about Spiritual power also known as vibes or energy. Whether the takers around you take consciously or unconsciously, it still affects you in the same way. This is it’s important to know some of the tactics used by takers so that you can protect yourself:

  1. They will make mean jokes about you to make you feel bad.
  2. They will ask you personal questions so they can use this information against you at a later time.
  3. They can’t wait to tell you, tragic news so they can see the pain in your eyes.
  4. They will pressure you into making decisions leaving you little to no time to decide what is best for you.
  5. They’re passive aggressiveness and will not confront the situation head-on, but instead, they’ll make sure you pay one way or another.

You can protect yourself by either cutting these people off. Limit the time you spent with them. As well as taking care of yourself first. Know that you cannot pour from an empty cup. I’ve said this before in my other posts you need a spiritual practice. Meditate on scripture this is a sure way to fill you up and to make sure you’re not pouring from an empty cup. Takers have positive attributes too, and this can feel confusing that’s why you need to love them from a distance.

I have so much to talk about on this topic. Let me know in the comments below if you want me to add an extended piece on this subject.

An opportunity to be inspired

Every day presents you with an opportunity to be inspired. To keep going to keep pushing. ‘TD jakes always says never despise the days of small beginnings” this lesson is presenting itself to me in many different forms lately.  Last night I went to DJ Black Coffee’s show here in Toronto, and the whole venue was filled up with the most diverse group of people. I started asking people in the crowd how they know him. The stories where amazing! This one girl said you know he lost feeling in his arm when Nelson Mandela came out of prison and this car ran into a crowd of people? One other guy turns around says “Oh his has been underground for years! Won several awards.”

I knew these stories about him but hearing them from people of different races and creed inspired me to not limit myself to a particular audience but to broaden my thoughts concerning who I write for. The lesson is he has been underground in Europe and North America for years, and now only his getting the mainstream attention. Imagine the perseverance and consistency it took for him to be where he is today.

Now I am more inspired to improve as a writer and be consistent and persevere during my underground time.

If that African child can, so can I, so can you. 



What do you want to be when you grow up?

One of my wonderful readers a bright young lady whose strength and wisdom I admire suggested this website be more than boys and fashion. Hi Puveri! 😊 That we should talk more about things like Education. I’ve been having trouble tackling this topic, where do I start? What do I say that hasn’t been said yet? As an educator myself, I have a perspective that is traditional I suppose, and that may come off as clichéd. So, I intend to bring a fresh approach to this immensely huge topic by simplifying it in my natural writing style.

We all have heard the question “What do you want to be when you grow up?” the lucky few knew exactly what to say. They said it and then became it. The rest of us chose the most impressive answer you could find to please the adult who was asking you this question (sadly an adult who still doesn’t know what to become. I’m being shady 😊). I had no clue what I wanted to become, so my Mom literally filled out my application to go to Teachers College “She said just do this for now until you decide what to do next”. Even though I wasn’t so passionate about my career choice AT FIRST. I learned a lot. I learned to think critically, to plan, to be professional. I learned about myself. My strengths and my weaknesses. My point is in an educational environment, you learn more than your coursework. I support formal education wholeheartedly. It’s a sure way to have a stable foundation.  However, people are different, and that’s ok. Some people learn better in an informal setting. Some prefer self-teaching. There are a lot of self-taught makeup artist I know if you combine that with a series of short business courses there’s nothing that can stop you from being a successful business owner without the degree. 

There’s another category of people whose career choices were ridiculed by elders. Yes, this happens a lot in African and Asian families. One of my brothers wanted to become an anime cartoonist. I’m sure you can imagine the reaction of our elders. Not only are such dreams are dismissed, but they are also ridiculed and even forbidden.

So far, we’ve Identified 3 types of people.

  1. The ones who know who they want to be and become it.
  2. The ones Who simply don’t know yet.
  3. The ones Who know what they should be doing with their lives, but because it’s not a traditionally Impressive career and they conform.

Before choosing who, you want to be when you grow up, and I’m talking to you “grown-ups”. You have to know yourself. If you know yourself and see that you’re making the right decision for yourself. It makes it harder for another person to tell you to conform to their expectations of who you should be. Know what you’re good at, what you enjoy doing and then make a career out of that.

It takes the same amount of effort to chase a career you’re not passionate about as it does one that you are. The measure of success is not and will never be to have lived up to the expectations of others, not to have had a certain amount of wealth (although money is nice) but to have lived a fulfilled life, to have used the gifts that God gave you that’s success.