December 2017

What it takes to be a good husband I asked this question on my various social media sites because I really have no idea what it takes to be a good husband. In most patriarchal societies Girls are taught what it takes to be a good wife, and boys are taught what to look for in a wife. But what does it really take to be a good husband? The question was so difficult to some men that they felt attacked. As a result, they became defensive, and the common come back was "What does it take to be a good wife?". I avoided, by all means, to answer this questions because it diverts the conversation. This diversion is what I call "All lives mattering" the topic at hand. You know how one group say Black Lives Matter and another group comes up with All Lives Matter? Yeah, that type of diversion. Here is a list of the answers I got: Good Character God Fearing Maturity Humility Self Control Respect wife and understand her character respectful Be there for your wife Supportive Sex her good A good husband (someone actually commented this and quietly moved on with their lives) Deep understanding and a healthy dose of emotional intelligence (Yaaaaasssss!) None Alcoholic Respectful Loves God Everything we've learned about marriage stems from patriarchal essentialist ideas that need to be unlearned. (Say that louder sir!) Love your wife and take care of your kids Be rich, if you're rich you're a good husband (rolls eyes) Goal oriented, competitive and spiritual Bros...

My version of Mr right I've been avoiding talking about romantic relationships on here because I'm no expert on the matter, however here are my two cents. Ideally, you want a person who is aligned with God's will for their lives. Once you're aligned with God's will you become comfortable and secure in the essence of who you are as an individual, let's look at the definition of alignment; Alignment: a state of agreement or cooperation among persons, groups, nations,etc.with a common cause or viewpoint. Individuals who are in cooperation with their calling operate their lives at a superior level than those who aren't.  After you found this person that is aligned with themselves, you now have the seemingly impossible task of determining if your destinies are aligned. That your visions are interrelated and that your core values are equivalent to one another. Here's a list of core values That's my current picture of Mr Right. If he is tall and handsome than boom! You've hit the jackpot baby (lol) Share your thoughts with us...