Arranged Marriages

Arranged Marriages

This is a great love story I got from a family member. One Afternoon an uncle who had left the country in exile during the liberation struggle called his elder brother and informed him that he was ready to settle down. The Elder brother goes to our grandfather because he had many beautiful girls. After deliberation, they chose one young maiden who was age appropriate, and the engagement was finalised. So when Uncle came home from abroad, he was ready with an engagement ring. When they laid eyes on each other, it was love at first sight. They got married in a beautiful 3-day traditional marriage and off they went to their new home abroad.

I have heard of similar successful arranged marriage stories that will only melt the heart. Unfortunately, I also have heard of horrifying stories of grown men marrying children!

One time I was allowed to tag along with my cousin who was 3 years older than I am. I was about 8, and she was 11years old. Her friend from school had asked her to come over to play. When we got to her place, she offered us drinks while she finished up cooking. I asked her when her mother was coming home, she said her mother lived in another village, she stated that she lived with her husband. I was so shocked my eyes were ready to pop! Even then at 8 years old I knew it was wrong. Can you imagine this was 1996! I knew the old man he worked at the post office, and he was quiet, respectful and kind too. Not some mean old monster as we sometimes imagine these people. Everyone in the community knew about it and accepted it. It was none of their business.

In the first case, it was two consenting adults, which I feel is ok but a child! No.

If you have similar stories share with us in the comments

Elegant Me
  • Adel
    Posted at 08:40h, 10 August Reply

    Congrats on the blog. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and experiences with the world.
    I look forward to more inspirational blogs:*).

  • ChachaaK
    Posted at 00:05h, 15 August Reply

    Wow that was something! an interesting read indeed.

  • Anonymous
    Posted at 06:23h, 22 October Reply

    Congrats Meya. This is so inspirational and motivational.
    I’m right behind you!

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