Author: Elegant Me

Please, you're doing me a favour See, I was just surfing the gram and came across this cute rapper/ comedian called B. Simone. She has this freestyle rap on her page which I loved! When she hit the B.Simone tone, I lost it!  In her rap, she says "keep my name outta your mouth if you ain't my real friend" I've heard this statement for a while now and for a long time I've felt it and agreed with it but now, I'm somewhat on the fence about it. The reason behind that is that I've realized that people will keep your name in their mouths, and it isn't much you can do about it, cos a lot of the time it happens when you're not there to defend yourself. There's not much you can do, other than breaking the law on sight! (fight),  Which isn't really in your best interest. I'd like to think that a lot of you are on a spiritual journey that is why you found your way here.  So my suggestion is to let people keep talking about you. Get comfortable with it. Get so comfortable that you're okay with it. Take it a step further and capitalize on it. Build a brand on being the topic of conversation at dinner tables. They say any publicity is good publicity. So keep my name in your mouth and make me some guap!   So how can you make money from being talked about? Here is how. Researchers at Stanford University say in some cases negative publicity can increase sales when a product or company is relatively unknown, just because it stimulates product awareness. This means people are aware of you. People generally turn to things and products that they are aware of so if they had to choose to buy a product...

"Make me numb Nelson make me numb." In the words of the fictional character Sarafina (as she looked at a photo of Nelson Mandela.  From the movie Sarafina;a young South African girl growing up during apartheid. If you haven't watched the film go watch it). The phrase has become an inside joke between my friends and I. Not because its funny but because its all we can do to keep us from crying. Keep us from feeling...

I remember the time when you were so joyful? Remember when your laughter came from the core of your soul? Remeber when life excited you so much you had butterflies and your heart warmed up at the simplest of things? The good old days? I popped in today to ask you to make a journey back to your old self. Your happiness matters. Your excitement for life matters. We all get knocked down by life and lose ourselves, making this journey back to your authenticity, to your joyful self is just as important as climbing the corporate ladder or graduating school or pursuing your wildest dreams, if not more important. In fact, I believe that you're not yet successful until you've made this journey. This will not happen overnight. It takes time to lose yourself, and it'll take time to rediscover what makes you happy. Just do the things you're curious about, the what ifs. You'll be nervous at first, scared to death even. Do it anyway. Learn how to comfort yourself, when you're low,  how to make yourself laugh without hesitation and how to love your own company, your body, your "flaws".  No one will ever do this for you. No person can fill that void for you. You have to do the work. It'll take time, but I believe in you. Have a blessed day....

I have a lot of wonderful people in my life that believe in me. People that think I am extraordinary even on days that I don't feel it. This fantastic support system keeps me going. So when I'm dreaming so big, so wildly! They not only support me but they help me find solutions and throw in ideas and opportunities. We all think these people are rare but are they? Or are we too focused on the haters to really see the jewels in front of us? I sent my weight loss results to a dear friend of mine, and she was so proud of me she posted the before and after shots onto her social media. She said people were asking her how I did it. I said "well, eating right and working out. It really takes commitment, blood,  sweat and tears". She said, "well not everyone is willing to do all that, only extraordinary people like you". Such a simple statement. I did not see myself as extraordinary at all, but the mirror of my support system said I am extraordinary. These are the opinions we ought to focus on. I know its hard to not get caught up in the negative, but everything takes practice. Every time someone tries to drag me down into anger or bitterness, another friend of mine who has mastered the art of peace in her life always says to me "Don't hitch a ride with them, let them go". Many times people will approach you with the sole intention of getting a reaction out of you; you have an opportunity to decide to hitch a ride and go down the slippery slope with them or remain on the higher ground. I was so curious about a male colleague of mine. We worked in a very negative environment. He was always calm and never let anything...

What's your position?In soccer, there are two leading positions that any soccer laymen like me are aware of.  Centre forward (Striker) and centre back (defence). The centre forward's main purpose is to score a goal. The centre back's primary purpose is to stop the centre-forward from scoring a goal. When you get into a relationship with the wrong person you will always find yourself playing centre back (defence), your main goal becomes making sure this person doesn't cheat, doesn't abuse you or doesn't betray you in any way. Your time and resources and thought process become invested in making sure your partner doesn't score their goals. The choice to play centre back comes at the expense of playing centre-forward (Stiker), which is the equivalent of chasing your dreams and making sure your career goals are set stable, that you're emotionally and physically healthy. All positions in a soccer match matter but in your life, you want to play centre-forward always, and your life partner should be your second striker. The second striker also known as support striker is there to help the centre-forward score goals. In this case, score your life goals. Your life partner should be there to hold you accountable to your ambitions, and to make sure you're taking care of your emotional needs. Note that I said "you're taking care of your emotional needs" because that's your responsibility to communicate them so they can be met but that's a conversation for another day. If your partner isn't your second striker than they are a distraction you might want to reconsider the whole relationship. Have a blessed week ahead!...

Its take an incredible amount of courage it takes to live authentically. It's really not easy to not hide behind a persona. To stand fully in who God created you to be and say to the world "Here I am and I am not apologising for anything", To say "here I am, and I am equal to all of you". I am equal to Monarchs, presidents, philosophers, pop stars and the homeless man on the street. Standing in your truth is not easy. If it were, we'd all be free from shame...

"I live in my head a lot. I might as well make it a happy place." This is what I said to myself after years of self-torture. I would wake up after a night of partying, and the first thing I would say to myself is "I have a headache, and I'm pretty sure God is upset with me". I would spend the rest of the day condemning myself because the word says drunkness is a sin. So now I am a worthless sinner. But in 1 John 1:9 says If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness. We live in a generation of people cutting each other off. I mean this generation is brutal with the scissors! Which is perfectly fine if that's what you need to do, but if you really stopped and listened to half the things you say to yourself you might want to consider cutting yourself off as well cos you're toxic to yourself and your own progress. Cut it out! "You yourself as much as anyone in the entire universe, deserves your love and affection- Buddha" ...

Sisterhood to me means women coming together and empowering each other. It means having a sister's back, defending her honour even when her back is turned. Defying the catty stereotype. You may wonder why bother? Because we are stronger together. Imagine what we can achieve if we put down our claws and really got down to the business of helping each other take over boardrooms, politics, stock markets, arts, science...

~Not Even Me~ So now you've figured it out, you know what your calling is or maybe not but you kind of know what is most appealing to you regarding the path of your life. But it's too risky! I mean you're now a certain age, and your peers are way ahead of you. If you fail in this one thing you desire that's it, you would have failed in life. As a coping mechanism, we tend to fall back onto plan B. I realised that I had the habit of settling for plan B in the most mundane of ways. I once was looking for a specific bottle of perfume, and I couldn't find it, so I settled for another. The funny thing is to this day I detest the scent of my second choice. I have concluded that second choices will smell good enough at first but in the end, they stink. There are tons of mental roadblocks stop us from really pursuing plan A with gusto. I say mental roadblocks because most of them aren't real. Some reasons are legit and scary. Like quitting your job to start a business while you have a family relying on your health care benefits is very risky. But some exceptional people have succeeded. Even those who failed have succeeded because they have dared! The fear of the unknown is one of the major powers of the pull-down effect. What's interesting even if you don't go for what you want the fear remains in the form of "what if?" The pull-down effect happens when you try to reach out to something higher than what you currently have, and you get dragged down back into your comfort zone. In the same manner as the Law of Gravity. If the pull-down effect weren't so real, there would be...

Thomas Sankara I am one of those people who are particularly nostalgic. I love period movies, music and fashion. And as an African child born only 2 years before Namibia's independence I go through times when I overindulge in reading about the liberation struggles of many African nations, the songs the stories and the music. This always brings a deeper appreciation for our leaders. Who were then barely adults and yet so courageous and wise beyond their years because they did not have the privilege of fooling around and enjoying their childhood. I have a great fondness and a sincere appreciation for their tenacity and resilience. Their audacity to look the enemy in the eyes and demand that they; be liberated always has me questioning who I would have been had I been born during that time. Would I have been quiet? An informant risking the lives of my brethren for my own benefit? Or Would I have been as courageous as the greats? I've pondered on this for quite some time now, and I've come to the conclusion that who I am today is the same person I would have been during those times of apartheid. My silence today on economic issues that Africa is facing today would have been the same silence I would have had during apartheid. Keeping my mouth shut and being a good Kaffir. On which side of history are you on? Because history is being made with every day that you're alive. Are you currently the equivalent of what was then known as puppets by only looking out for yourself? By benefiting from corrupt systems without considering your brethren who are starving to death in front of your very eyes? Or are you perhaps the fearless visionary leader, pure blood of our forefathers who not only fought for themselves but for their nations? Where will you be...