Author: Elegant Me

"I put out a record, and I knew the diss would get some attention. It actually got a response from Jay Z" - 50 cent This is what 50 Cent said in his 2012 interview with Oprah. The YouTube comment section dubbed this statement as "a dangerous concept". If you have seen a rap battle, I'm sure you've seen a group of kids surrounding two kids who are at lyrical war. With another providing the beat with their psychedelic beatboxing skills. Rap battles shot to another level with the release of diss tracks to purposely envoke anger in one another. The primary purpose of this is record sales. Of course, ego plays a significant role too, but for the purpose of this article, we'll focus on the monetary gain. As we all know the black culture is the leading influencer of pop culture, so the concept of dissing is also used on social media to gain attention or followers. Somebody goes onto a celebrity's page and hits the follow button and then proceeds to provoke them by saying all kinds of negative things to get them to respond. Once they do get the response they get attention, more followers, eventually social media fame which than lead to financial gain if handled correctly. "I was aiming to get to a million followers. So I said when I hit a million followers, I'm gone roast Kevin Hart for a week until he responds. I hit a million, and I sat down that weekend and went to roasting, he replied in 15 minutes" - DC Young Fly DC sat down with TV One and explained how he propelled his social media following by dissing Kevin Hart who has over 35 Million followers on Twitter. If Kevin responds to you, that's millions of people coming to check what you're about. DC has gone to be an actor in the Christmas movie Almost...

While I was sitting on the bus today, I caught myself thinking about how a few weeks ago another driver wouldn't let me off the bus at the traffic lights. I didn't know the bus was detouring and I had missed my stop.This particular driver was so rude to me even though I asked him nicely. to let me off. I was so upset that day. When I remembered that scenario I was mentally back in that moment. So much so that I got so angry all over again! So mad that I wished that driver was miserable in his life! It may have been a natural reaction for me to be upset. To be angry at that moment. That bus driver may have been wrong to be rude to me. But for me to relive that moment and hold on to my anger was my choice. To be unforgiving and wish that he was miserable was a sin. In fact who was benefitting from me to holding on to this outrage? That man was not there, in fact, he could have been somewhere sunny on the beach sipping on an ice-cold cocktail. Here I was in freezing cold Toronto angry at him because he did not let me off the bus. It sounds ridiculous now to you because you're not the one on the chopping board, but let's face it; We do this all the time! Remeber the cliched phrase that "Forgiveness is for you and not the other person"?  This is what they mean by it. If you refuse to forgive, you're only hurting yourself and no one else. I had a moment of weakness and slipped down the rabbit hole, but I caught myself before bitterness could erode my soul. Forgive us our sin as we forgive those who sin against us...

"I was driving in my brand new Landrover Discovery, I was so broke and miserable that I could not even afford petrol. I stopped at the red light, and I saw two homeless men under the bridge laughing so hard. I've never been more envious, in my whole life."  This were the words of South African celebrity Somizi Mhlongo. He was talking about a low point in his long career in show business. The rawness of his words, his courage to show his vulnerability is really inspiring to me because my current biggest fear is to share my truth, even though I am deeply compelled to do it. Your story is medicine to fellow human beings. For them to know that you've overcome what they are going through gives them the courage to keep pushing forward, to keep fighting, to keep dreaming of a brighter tomorrow. Tell your story, those who don't get it will laugh, those get it will admire your courage and those who really need it will be healed and inspired by it. Shout it out from the rooftops. Reveal your innermost fears. You have an obligation to your fellow mankind. Give your story as a gift us because in the words of Tao Te Chin "The heart that gives gathers." Have a blessed week ahead.  ...

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Now that we got the lessons down we look ahead at what we aspire to achieve this year. Go into your mind's eye and envision the kind of life you wish to live this year and then come back to the present and put that vision to work! Planning I find is the most important thing. Set goals. Daily goals, monthly and an overall year goal. What is that you want to achieve this year and how are you going to reach it? I saw a perfect meme that said "If you don't work, you'll spend the rest of your life screaming, I receive in church" and even the Bible agrees. What does it profit, my brethren, if someone says he has faith but does not have works? Can faith save him? James 2:14 Continue what you started last year, just go harder at it this year. This year started on a Monday for a reason. It'll put us all to work. Be strategic and remember to always put God first. Happy New Year!    ...

They say never look back unless you're trying to see how far you come. I agree and to add to that I say look back and take the gifts with you, lessons are gifts wrapped up in pain. God. Keep Him number one in all that you do Go for it! Go for that one thing that you can't stop thinking about. That something you're obsessing about. Forgive, The faster you forgive, the happier you are. Write down in detail everything that hurt you, tear that paper up and never look back. Love yourself, love your neighbour too! We millennials have forgotten to love and care for one another. Any cent coming in is better than any cent going out. Multiple streams of income is the way to go. Every little cent counts. Turn ideas into action. People are out there eating big from their ideas. Put your ideas into action, and you'll join them. If not now, when? When are you going to show us your gifts? You owe the world this. You owe yourself, and most importantly you owe God!   Have a prosperous 2018, I pray your cup overflows....

What it takes to be a good husband I asked this question on my various social media sites because I really have no idea what it takes to be a good husband. In most patriarchal societies Girls are taught what it takes to be a good wife, and boys are taught what to look for in a wife. But what does it really take to be a good husband? The question was so difficult to some men that they felt attacked. As a result, they became defensive, and the common come back was "What does it take to be a good wife?". I avoided, by all means, to answer this questions because it diverts the conversation. This diversion is what I call "All lives mattering" the topic at hand. You know how one group say Black Lives Matter and another group comes up with All Lives Matter? Yeah, that type of diversion. Here is a list of the answers I got: Good Character God Fearing Maturity Humility Self Control Respect wife and understand her character respectful Be there for your wife Supportive Sex her good A good husband (someone actually commented this and quietly moved on with their lives) Deep understanding and a healthy dose of emotional intelligence (Yaaaaasssss!) None Alcoholic Respectful Loves God Everything we've learned about marriage stems from patriarchal essentialist ideas that need to be unlearned. (Say that louder sir!) Love your wife and take care of your kids Be rich, if you're rich you're a good husband (rolls eyes) Goal oriented, competitive and spiritual Bros...

My version of Mr right I've been avoiding talking about romantic relationships on here because I'm no expert on the matter, however here are my two cents. Ideally, you want a person who is aligned with God's will for their lives. Once you're aligned with God's will you become comfortable and secure in the essence of who you are as an individual, let's look at the definition of alignment; Alignment: a state of agreement or cooperation among persons, groups, nations,etc.with a common cause or viewpoint. Individuals who are in cooperation with their calling operate their lives at a superior level than those who aren't.  After you found this person that is aligned with themselves, you now have the seemingly impossible task of determining if your destinies are aligned. That your visions are interrelated and that your core values are equivalent to one another. Here's a list of core values That's my current picture of Mr Right. If he is tall and handsome than boom! You've hit the jackpot baby (lol) Share your thoughts with us...

Really Who do you think you are? This question is usually post with the intent to discredit others, to hurt their feelings and put them down. Even though this statement has so many negative connotations to it, it's imperative that we continuously post this question to ourselves for self-evaluation because who we think we are; we become. So who do you think you are? Do you believe you are worthy of love? Do you think you deserve magnificent houses and fast cars? Do you think your voice matters? Your feelings matters? Because they do. The image you have of yourself is the driving force for your life. If you have a strong sense of who you are, outside forces that will try to bring you down will not affect that much. Have a blessed Sunday and a great week ahead....