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  • So you’re on this path of healing, self-awareness and self-love. You’re growing and taking care of you now. You’re hyper-aware of the quotes and the books written on this topic, and the general consensus is that you’ve got to follow your passion.  God’s will for your life, your Purpose! The birds have a purpose they wake up every morning to their mission; they sing and fly! Imagine what God has for you; Who were instructed to be above all creatures? This is all true...

  • See Me? Hear me? Believe Me. Help Me… Central Park five reference If you have been keeping up with social media in the last couple of weeks, then you already know that ‘When They See Us” dropped on Netflix. This incredible piece of storytelling by Ava Duvernay about the central park five now officially known as the exonerated five. The film brings a little redemption to the exonerated five as it is pivotal to the layman’s perception of the American justice system. This, h...

  • I am a huge Celine Dion fan! When I was 13, my older cousin’s boyfriend gave her a Celine Dion greatest hits of 1982-1996 album, and it pretty much became mine. After years of reading Mills and Boon novels, I finally had the soundtrack for romance. Everything made sense, and I was ready for love! I learned all the words to all the songs. I even made a music book. For those who don’t know what a music book is, before Google, There was no way to learn the lyrics to a song but to listen...

  • Yikes! I found myself slipping into an old habit of shrinking myself to make other people comfortable around me. When I’m in a situation where I feel I may be intimidating to someone or I’m at a better place in my life than they are I start being self-deprecating and make myself appear so small and irrelevant to accommodate their insecurities and imaginary inadequacies. This habit really eats away at my soul. The funny thing is no one really requires this from me. I just make assumpt...

  • There’s this culture of people talking big and not being able to back it up. Everyone is too busy trying to convince everyone how important they are, how successful they are and how fit they are. It’s in the little things we do on daily. It’s in body shapers instead of exercising, it’s on social media these perfectly seeming couples, its in the quotes we choose to upload. Everyone is on a mission to prove how they’ve got it together. They know where their life is he...

  • I am one of those people who put so much pressure on myself about not being there yet. By there I mean at the level of success that I thought I should have achieved by this age, or the weight I should be, or the love that I should have. There’s that nagging feeling of comparison. Even though you’re trying hard to run your own race and stay focused. You get these thoughts that “so and so is this age and has achieved this and I am this age, and I am not where I want to be” ...

  • My heart really goes out to men, black men especially. Society has taught you that to be human was weak. That to feel pain and expressing it wasn’t man enough. For you to feel love, you must feel pain. If feeling pain is unmanly how can you ever feel love? Now we have generations of men that cannot be reached. Men who have built their walls so up high that if you ever attempt to love him, you’ll get bruised. When the world set the standard of beauty; women rallied together and challe...

  • Working with customers is notoriously hard you guys. People these days are impatient, entitled and in a rush to go home and eat frozen dinners for one in front of the television. A few weeks ago I informed a customer, a woman that we couldn’t release any of her private info to her son without her written consent. Makes sense right? Nope, not to her. She sent me a series of impolite emails in caps with several exclamation marks. I was professional, and everything worked out. About a week la...

  • I thought my biggest fear was snakes, but that’s not it. I went to the emergency on October 8th, I rarely get sick, so I was freaking out. It turned out to be nothing major. But as I sat there waiting for my test results, I was almost in tears because of the pain, but what was more traumatizing than the pain was that I have just found out what my passion is, I haven’t done much to impact humanity in a big way through my gift. So I kept saying to myself “I just cannot die yet.&#...

  • Cos it ain’t you You don’t have the power to dim the light that shines from within you. I mean you can try. By lowering yourself to the standards of those around you, people you should be around in the first place. Others might convince you that your light is not there and that you are nothing special. But it’s still not going to go away. There will be people who will attack you because it’s shining in their face and you’ll wonder “What have I done to these pe...

  •  “Have the courage to be disliked.” Read the first quote I came across this morning. It takes a certain amount of courage to walk confidently into a room knowing that half the room hates your guts! The people pleaser in me would never allow it. There were times I would go to an event and force conversation with someone who doesn’t like me until they budged. Imagine using all that time and energy to convince someone how much of a beautiful person you are instead of letting them ...

  • Please, you’re doing me a favour See, I was just surfing the gram and came across this cute rapper/ comedian called B. Simone. She has this freestyle rap on her page which I loved! When she hit the B.Simone tone, I lost it!  In her rap, she says “keep my name outta your mouth if you ain’t my real friend” I’ve heard this statement for a while now and for a long time I’ve felt it and agreed with it but now, I’m somewhat on the fence about it. The reason be...

  • “Make me numb Nelson make me numb.” In the words of the fictional character Sarafina (as she looked at a photo of Nelson Mandela.  From the movie Sarafina;a young South African girl growing up during apartheid. If you haven’t watched the film go watch it). The phrase has become an inside joke between my friends and I. Not because its funny but because its all we can do to keep us from crying. Keep us from feeling… Isn’t it that what we do though? Do everything in ou...

  • I remember the time when you were so joyful? Remember when your laughter came from the core of your soul? Remeber when life excited you so much you had butterflies and your heart warmed up at the simplest of things? The good old days? I popped in today to ask you to make a journey back to your old self. Your happiness matters. Your excitement for life matters. We all get knocked down by life and lose ourselves, making this journey back to your authenticity, to your joyful self is just as importa...

  • I have a lot of wonderful people in my life that believe in me. People that think I am extraordinary even on days that I don’t feel it. This fantastic support system keeps me going. So when I’m dreaming so big, so wildly! They not only support me but they help me find solutions and throw in ideas and opportunities. We all think these people are rare but are they? Or are we too focused on the haters to really see the jewels in front of us? I sent my weight loss results to a dear frien...

  • What’s your position? In soccer, there are two leading positions that any soccer laymen like me are aware of.  Centre forward (Striker) and centre back (defence). The centre forward’s main purpose is to score a goal. The centre back’s primary purpose is to stop the centre-forward from scoring a goal. When you get into a relationship with the wrong person you will always find yourself playing centre back (defence), your main goal becomes making sure this person doesn’t che...

  • Its take an incredible amount of courage it takes to live authentically. It’s really not easy to not hide behind a persona. To stand fully in who God created you to be and say to the world “Here I am and I am not apologising for anything”, To say “here I am, and I am equal to all of you”. I am equal to Monarchs, presidents, philosophers, pop stars and the homeless man on the street. Standing in your truth is not easy. If it were, we’d all be free from shame&#8...

  • “I live in my head a lot. I might as well make it a happy place.” This is what I said to myself after years of self-torture. I would wake up after a night of partying, and the first thing I would say to myself is “I have a headache, and I’m pretty sure God is upset with me”. I would spend the rest of the day condemning myself because the word says drunkness is a sin. So now I am a worthless sinner. But in 1 John 1:9 says If we confess our sins, he is faithful and ju...

  • Sisterhood to me means women coming together and empowering each other. It means having a sister’s back, defending her honour even when her back is turned. Defying the catty stereotype. You may wonder why bother? Because we are stronger together. Imagine what we can achieve if we put down our claws and really got down to the business of helping each other take over boardrooms, politics, stock markets, arts, science… If you combine this with our compassion for humanity, our intuition ...

  • ~Not Even Me~ So now you’ve figured it out, you know what your calling is or maybe not but you kind of know what is most appealing to you regarding the path of your life. But it’s too risky! I mean you’re now a certain age, and your peers are way ahead of you. If you fail in this one thing you desire that’s it, you would have failed in life. As a coping mechanism, we tend to fall back onto plan B. I realised that I had the habit of settling for plan B in the most mundane ...

  • Thomas Sankara I am one of those people who are particularly nostalgic. I love period movies, music and fashion. And as an African child born only 2 years before Namibia’s independence I go through times when I overindulge in reading about the liberation struggles of many African nations, the songs the stories and the music. This always brings a deeper appreciation for our leaders. Who were then barely adults and yet so courageous and wise beyond their years because they did not have the p...

  • “I put out a record, and I knew the diss would get some attention. It actually got a response from Jay Z” – 50 cent This is what 50 Cent said in his 2012 interview with Oprah. The YouTube comment section dubbed this statement as “a dangerous concept”. If you have seen a rap battle, I’m sure you’ve seen a group of kids surrounding two kids who are at lyrical war. With another providing the beat with their psychedelic beatboxing skills. Rap battles shot to...

  • While I was sitting on the bus today, I caught myself thinking about how a few weeks ago another driver wouldn’t let me off the bus at the traffic lights. I didn’t know the bus was detouring and I had missed my stop.This particular driver was so rude to me even though I asked him nicely. to let me off. I was so upset that day. When I remembered that scenario I was mentally back in that moment. So much so that I got so angry all over again! So mad that I wished that driver was miserab...

  • “I was driving in my brand new Landrover Discovery, I was so broke and miserable that I could not even afford petrol. I stopped at the red light, and I saw two homeless men under the bridge laughing so hard. I’ve never been more envious, in my whole life.”  This were the words of South African celebrity Somizi Mhlongo. He was talking about a low point in his long career in show business. The rawness of his words, his courage to show his vulnerability is really inspiring to me b...

  • Black hair has the most extensive variety of textures. As creative beings, we took this range of textures and used it to create many styles. Locs, natural hair, wigs, braids, weaves… You name it, we got it. The creativity that we bring into our hairstyles is one of the most appropriated by high fashion houses and yet most ridiculed. Black hair as it naturally grows out of the scalp has been deemed unprofessional and unpresentable. Most workplaces have rules prohibiting Afros and dreadlocks...

  • Now that we got the lessons down we look ahead at what we aspire to achieve this year. Go into your mind’s eye and envision the kind of life you wish to live this year and then come back to the present and put that vision to work! Planning I find is the most important thing. Set goals. Daily goals, monthly and an overall year goal. What is that you want to achieve this year and how are you going to reach it? I saw a perfect meme that said “If you don’t work, you’ll spend ...

  • They say never look back unless you’re trying to see how far you come. I agree and to add to that I say look back and take the gifts with you, lessons are gifts wrapped up in pain. God. Keep Him number one in all that you do Go for it! Go for that one thing that you can’t stop thinking about. That something you’re obsessing about. Forgive, The faster you forgive, the happier you are. Write down in detail everything that hurt you, tear that paper up and never look back. Love you...

  • What it takes to be a good husband I asked this question on my various social media sites because I really have no idea what it takes to be a good husband. In most patriarchal societies Girls are taught what it takes to be a good wife, and boys are taught what to look for in a wife. But what does it really take to be a good husband? The question was so difficult to some men that they felt attacked. As a result, they became defensive, and the common come back was “What does it take to be a ...

  • Help me understand this… A few weeks ago I went for drinks with a colleague after work. The trendy downtown restaurant was packed, it was game night. I sat at the bar my friend to my left and two friendly white men to my right. The two tables to my colleague’s right were reserved. We enjoyed ourselves for a good 15 minutes before my colleague had to rush out. I decided to stay a for a bit, I knew some of the staffers. This black man came in, and the only available spot was next to me...

  • My version of Mr right I’ve been avoiding talking about romantic relationships on here because I’m no expert on the matter, however here are my two cents. Ideally, you want a person who is aligned with God’s will for their lives. Once you’re aligned with God’s will you become comfortable and secure in the essence of who you are as an individual, let’s look at the definition of alignment; Alignment: a state of agreement or cooperation among persons, groups, nat...

  • Really Who do you think you are? This question is usually post with the intent to discredit others, to hurt their feelings and put them down. Even though this statement has so many negative connotations to it, it’s imperative that we continuously post this question to ourselves for self-evaluation because who we think we are; we become. So who do you think you are? Do you believe you are worthy of love? Do you think you deserve magnificent houses and fast cars? Do you think your voice matt...

  • (Fiction) I’ve decided not to run anymore. I’m standing and facing the truth of who I am. I am bitter, angry, disappointed and hurt. These are not new feelings. I have bee collecting them and storing them for a rainy day. I did not realize that these feelings were slowing rusting my soul, infecting me from within. I’ve waited too long, wasted too much time. I wanted to be in charge of this one part of me. I was ready to give you everything but this. I thought if there’s anything I could handle t...

  • The San Diego Zoo found out that Cheetahs are very nervous animals and that in order for them to be comfortable they are paired up with dogs from a young age. I saw the cute photos of Cheetahs and their dog buddies and the Instagram comment section was filled with Oohs and Awes… It bothered me because, from learning about animals in my native Namibia I know Cheetahs are graceful, majestic and are able to run 120 km/h. Now that they are confined to limited space they are labelled as nervous...

  • Some people are takers. No matter how much you give them, they’ll still come back for more. They take material things, and they take spiritual things. Some takers know they’re takers and they revel in their ability to take. Others don’t realise it they surround themselves with givers unconsciously because being around givers gives them a sense of power. I’m talking about Spiritual power also known as vibes or energy. Whether the takers around you take consciously or uncon...

  • Every day presents you with an opportunity to be inspired. To keep going to keep pushing. ‘TD jakes always says never despise the days of small beginnings” this lesson is presenting itself to me in many different forms lately.  Last night I went to DJ Black Coffee’s show here in Toronto, and the whole venue was filled up with the most diverse group of people. I started asking people in the crowd how they know him. The stories where amazing! This one girl said you know he lost feeling in hi...

  • One of my wonderful readers a bright young lady whose strength and wisdom I admire suggested this website be more than boys and fashion. Hi Puveri! 😊 That we should talk more about things like Education. I’ve been having trouble tackling this topic, where do I start? What do I say that hasn’t been said yet? As an educator myself, I have a perspective that is traditional I suppose, and that may come off as clichéd. So, I intend to bring a fresh approach to this immensely huge topic by simplifying...

  • I went to get my hair coloured yesterday. I wanted a big bold red! I sat in the chair, and this lady did her thing, in between asking for the opinion of another hairdresser. Now you know that can’t be good. Your hairdresser asking for a second opinion! The Color came out bad. I wanted tones and highlights. If the colour had come out flat, I would have maybe kept it. Not only did it come out flat there were patches of black and patches of way too red. I was upset. The hairdresser, the barbe...

  • Letting go of a situation or person that hurt you is easier said than done. I’ve always thought that I was supposed to just decide to let go and poof! It was done. So I’d beat myself up when I woke up the next day, and the feeling of anger and bitterness was still there. Why can’t I just let it go? Cos I thought that as soon as I decide to let it go. It’ll all go away. I’d be wiped clean with zero residues. That’s not the case at all. Letting go is a  process....

  • I went to the drug store yesterday in search of facial cleanser, and I came across this Neutrogena cleanser on sale. Neutrogena is that brand that Kerry Washington advertises “Can your makeup remover do all that? Neutrogena”  I just love how she speaks. She has this innocent way of speaking like a lisp but not really. Anyway according to the label the cleanser minimizes the appearance of pores. I walked over to that makeup mirror to look at my pores, shrugged and bought the cleanser....

  • I get it; social media is the millennial’s absolute fav past time. We are moving from snap chat to Instagram and Twitter with a click of a button. Memes are my absolute favourite, and I’m actually trying to introduce a new post on here called  Meme of the day. I find myself laughing outrageously in public because of memes. I’m a blogger, so I’m not about to exclude myself from this madness. I’ve been noticing a lot of memes that actually are not ok to our mental hea...

  • My face is hot with rage, and I’m slowly losing respect for this older African man I work with.  How dare he? As he kept talking, my anger slowly begins to subside because we are having a conversation that has needed to be had for ages. His telling me about his friends who’s got two wives here in Canada! One lives on the 10th floor and one on the 17th. I ask Fahad, how his friends supporting two women. Fahad’s says “they both work and help him, his a wealthy man.” I...

  • My favourite quote that sums this statement is common and very popular a lot of you have related to it shared it liked and maybe even screen grabbed it. Here it is. Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God.Your playing small does not serve the wor...

  • Growing up in most African cultures you're told to eat. An elder who's feeding you maybe your mom, grandma or cousin will say "look at you, you're so skinny, eat" These words were used as an insult, to maybe persuade you to eat a little more because being skinny was deemed the worst possible state of being. And when you're skinny other kids would use statements like "look at your hips sticking out like thorns" or they would say something sas...

  • This is a great love story I got from a family member. One Afternoon an uncle who had left the country in exile during the liberation struggle called his elder brother and informed him that he was ready to settle down. The Elder brother goes to our grandfather because he had many beautiful girls. After deliberation, they chose one young maiden who was age appropriate, and the engagement was finalised. So when Uncle came home from abroad, he was ready with an engagement ring. When ...

  • We are shamed for having it and shamed for not having it. We're going to look at how our beliefs influence our financial status. Many factors contribute towards poverty. Today I will single out one, our beliefs and how they affect our socio economic status. Money is necessary, in today's society because we're not able to afford our basic needs such as food water and shelter, also having a little extra for transportation, education is important. How about a little extra for retirem...

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