They Don’t Like You? Boo Hoo

They Don’t Like You? Boo Hoo

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 “Have the courage to be disliked.”

Read the first quote I came across this morning. It takes a certain amount of courage to walk confidently into a room knowing that half the room hates your guts!

The people pleaser in me would never allow it. There were times I would go to an event and force conversation with someone who doesn’t like me until they budged. Imagine using all that time and energy to convince someone how much of a beautiful person you are instead of letting them think whatever and enjoy your night.

At one point I was so fearful of being disliked to the point where I would change the way I dressed, talked and thought. I stopped thinking independently, and every decision had to be approved by someone. I once let someone talk me out of opening a boutique, something that I was so sure of at the time. Had I been courageous I would have been further along or I would have failed and learned from my mistakes.

Now that I’m older you’d think I have come full circle huh? Nope! Sometimes I’m still fearful, and sometimes its both middle fingers up like a rock star.

I’m courageous, I face this fear on a daily basis. Being a supervisor I have to make tuff decisions, that make my crew dislike me. One time I came in to find my name tag stabbed with a pair of scissors. I didn’t even flinch.  The more you are disliked, the more ok you get with it.

And when you get ok with not being liked, the more rooms you’ll enter courageously. The more opportunities you will take. The more success you’ll achieve.

Elegant Me
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5 Comments
  • mzz_ngunoo
    Posted at 03:12h, 11 December Reply

    Sometimes you just need to be selfish and take care of you. If they love you they’ll understand.

  • Denny Alston
    Posted at 20:37h, 15 December Reply

    Know what you mean about that! I work service too and you need to be tuff and if they dont like it oh well. What kind of job you work?

    • modernafricanwomansite
      Posted at 02:04h, 19 December Reply

      Concierge supervisor basically customer service. I’m glad you can relate.

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